Introducing Virtual Happsters Hugs

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Hi friends,

I hope you are staying safe and healthy! I wanted to introduce “Virtual Happsters Hugs.” Let’s come together to support those who are in need of a pep talk.

Here’s how it works:

1 // I’ll post requests from people who would like some extra support right now, giving a little background on what they are going through both on my Instagram account and here on the blog.

2 // You have the opportunity to write words of encouragement by clicking the provided link.

3 // I will gather all of the notes up and send them to the recipient to brighten their day.

Easy enough, right?

Nominate yourself or someone else to receive a virtual hug here.

Here’s an example of a virtual Happsters hug request:

“Hi! I’m 30 and I am a lonely person (well.. most of the time). I live alone since my 20 yo because I have lost my close family. I have a chronic disease and fight everyday to live as well as I can. I am fine with myself actually and I try to practice self-love as much as I can. But… a bit of love from others might help to illuminate my day .
And I love to share with people. I’d be happy to help back.”

I posted this on my Instagram and many members of the Happsters community answered with encouraging words. Here are a few responses:

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Here’s the next Virtual Happsters Hug request.

“I am going through a break up of a long term relationship. He came back asking for a second chance I was so happy about that. Few weeks later I got ghosted by him. Trying to move on but it‘s hard without getting a proper reason from him…”

Write some words of encouragement to this member of the Happsters community here. I am accepting responses until 4/10/20 and then will forward your kind words to the community member. Just a few sentences can make a huge difference in someone’s day. Thank you for participating!

I will post these requests throughout the next few months, so please check back here or watch my Instagram stories if you’d like to continue to provide Virtual Happsters Hugs.

Sending you all lots of love,

Kelli

 

 

Happsters Weekly 3: Monday Intention // Wednesday Gratitude // Friday Joy

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Hi Friends!
Long time, no talk! I’ve been hanging out over on Instagram at @happsters, but every once in awhile I like to pop on here when I have something I think you’ll enjoy.

Today, I’m talking about a ritual I’ve created called the “Happsters Weekly 3.” I’m a huge fan of rituals because I find that they ground me and keep me focused! The Weekly 3 is super simple and effective.

Here’s what I do:
1. Every Sunday, I pull out an index card and divide it into 3 sections: MONDAY INTENTION // WEDNESDAY GRATITUDE // FRIDAY JOY
2. On Monday mornings, I write what my intention is for the week under “Monday Intention.”
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3. On Wednesday mornings, I write 3 things I’m grateful for in that moment.
4. On Friday mornings, I write a simple thing that I’m looking forward to that day. It’s always something that I think will bring me joy. Sometimes it’s more than 1 thing!

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5. (OPTIONAL) At the end of the week, I snap a photo and text it to one of my friends and she sends me hers.

This practice helps me because it:
  1. Gets me in the right frame of mind on Monday morning. I’m able to start my Monday off with an intention that I keep in mind every day that week.
  2. Helps me appreciate what I have instead of focusing on things that are going “wrong” in my life.
  3. Encourages me to look for the little things that make life fun and joyful.
  4. Starts my day off on the right foot since I keep it by my bed and do it first thing in the morning (before looking at my phone!).
  5. Keeps me in the loop with what’s going on in my friend’s life and gives us a reason to connect every week.
Want to do it with me? If you want to do the Weekly 3 on your own index card and share it on social media, tag me @happsters and use #HappstersWeekly3 so I can re-share on my story!

Katie Saffert on Finding Her Dream Job, Juggling it All & Never Giving Up

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I absolutely loved getting to chat with Katie Saffert, the creator of Hatched Collective about anything and everything. We met up in real life and I found myself forgetting to take notes because I was so fascinated by her story! She is an inspiring entrepreneur and I’m excited to share her interview with you today! Enjoy ❤️

1) What is your background?

I worked out of college for Quicksilver for 6 years and moved my way up from intern to merchandiser to events. Finally I got my dream job doing visual design for their events. After awhile doing that, I realized that I was traveling all the time, didn’t make that much money and was just super depressed for a year. Everyone said “you have your dream job,” but I knew it wasn’t for me. I had a fear of leaving the corporate position, but knew there was something bigger out there. I walked in on my 28th birthday and quit. My boss at the time said “what do you think you’re ever going to do after this?” I said without thinking twice that I started my own event production company and didn’t let him make me feel “less than.” Soon after, I delivered my new business cards to all of the Quicksilver executives I previously worked with. That week I booked a wedding for one of the executives and then was hired on by the Quicksilver marketing department soon after to do big events like the Perl Jam concert and a Jack Johnson charity event. That’s how I sustained for 3 years, which eventually turned into me trying to find other vendors to figure out how to make these events really pretty. That turned into also starting a catering company and flower company for events.

Then I realized I needed to have a part time job to be comfortable financially because catering is so seasonal. I took a part time job with a yacht management company in Newport and first helped them throw their events on their boats and then followed a cute boy and left for 4 1/2 years to became a yacht chef.

If I never left my corporate job, I would have never pushed myself. There’s down time of course, but I’m much happier and feel more powerful in this position than I did when I was “comfortable.”

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2) How did Hatched Collective come to be?

When my boyfriend and I were traveling the world on the yacht, I got pregnant and found out it was twins. I knew then that traveling was not going to be in the books anymore. I moved from Newport Beach to San Diego to be with my boyfriend full time and felt like my power was completely taken away. I lost my complete identity and felt that I had to let go of all my business to be a better mom. I felt like I was sacrificing and after 2 years of home with the kids and running catering company in Newport, I knew I didn’t want to bring catering company to San Diego to start over. I wanted to start something new and wanted to be surrounded by other people.

I needed to find my identity again, so once the kids were old enough, I put the kids in school and started looking at buildings. I thought maybe I could have a bunch of other women who work there as a “co-working” space. I signed the lease when I found the right space and went from there.

In the 6 months we’ve been around, it’s taken so many turns. First it was going to be a place for other moms to co-work together and then once I started that I realized I didn’t want to run that type of business because I didn’t want to be there 5 days a week from 9:00 to 5:00. I could tell I said yes to something that wasn’t working. All of the anxiety went away the moment I made the decision to pivot away from the co-working studio. It opened up more space for me to come face to face with what women and moms are really missing.

Now, the studio is dedicated to female entrepreneurs. I teach workshops, speaker events and coaching to help propel female-owned businesses in San Diego. The women who have come inside the doors actually show up and support and are the ones who aren’t looking in the direction to be cool; they are looking to connect.

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3) What has been the best thing that’s happened because of Hatched Collective?

The women I’ve met and the support. I was not expecting it and I didn’t even know that kind of support was out there.

4) What does a typical Tuesday look like for you?

I’m up by 5:00am with kiddos and am with them until about 9:00am. I drop them off at school between 9 and 9:30 and head over to Hatched. By 9:30, I start a coaching client or a workshop. Tuesdays and Thursdays are dedicated to coaching. I’m at Hatched until about 4:00 when I pick my kids up at school. I don’t plan anything after that so I can dedicate my time to the family.

5) What is your favorite affirmation/quote?

You are enough. You have all of the tools that you need right now.

Another one of my favorites is:

Just start. Take one step. That’s all that matters. It doesn’t have to be big dramatic moves. If you were driving from California to NY. It’s a straight shot all the way across. If you made one degree different of a turn you wouldn’t end up in NY. All it takes is one small change to make a difference.

6) What book have you suggested the most to friends and why do you love it?

“Refuse to Choose.” It’s all for creatives and is about the mental state of having so many things you want to do. It was the first book that made me not feel crazy.

Two more of my favorites are “Loving What Is” by Byron Katie and “The Highly Sensitive Person.”

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9) Do you have any exciting workshops or events coming up?

I host mornings called “Coffee and Conversations” where women come into the studio, sit in a circle and talk about who they are and what their business is. Then they give their best piece of advice and finally, they all have to ask for help with something. It’s pretty much an entrepreneur support group. Most of the time people end up crying because they aren’t used to asking for help.

I’m also hosting a Holiday Party for ladies. December 8th. You can find the details here.

You can find Hatched Collective at https://www.hatchedcollective.co/ and on Instagram at https://www.instagram.com/hatchedcollective/.

 

Harpreet Dayal on Creativity, Writing a Children’s Book & Self Love

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Today, I’m excited to share with you an interview with the lovely Harpreet Dayal. I came across her poetry on Instagram a few months ago and love the way she mixes meaningful quotes with flowers in her photos. Enjoy ♥

  1. Tell us a little about yourself!

My name is Harpreet M Dayal and I was born and raised in London, England. I have lived in London for the majority of my life until I got married and moved to Canada. In my previous life, I worked in the world of finance. Shifting my life to a new country gave me the opportunity to explore my creative side. So while I waited for my immigration to be approved, I wrote, and wrote, and wrote.

  1. What does a typical day look like for you?

I wake up as early as I can but I will wholeheartedly admit that I’m not a morning person! I am trying to instill mindfulness exercises into my daily routine as they help me de-stress when life gets busy. Currently, I work for a non-profit organization called the Asian Heritage Foundation as the project coordinator for the “Missing Chapters” project. This job entails many different elements so I am not stuck at a desk all day. I reach out to a lot of the local community and I collect and write stories from pan Asian Canadians who have or are making a significant impact in southern Alberta. Most days I go where a story takes me. This means every day is different, which is great because it keeps things interesting but I also like to keep myself grounded and have a better routine. I spend time working out, meditating or practicing yoga in the evening. I love cooking and spending time with my husband and dog Coco after a busy day.

  1. How did you get involved in writing children’s books?

One day, an idea came to me for a story. It was about a shy little worm named Wilbert. There was a strong feeling inside of me to explore this story and start writing. It was right around the time when I knew that I would be moving to Canada and the story began to mirror my own journey of leaving what was familiar and starting life in a new country. However, since childhood, reading was of the utmost importance to me. To this day, authors like Roald Dahl still hold a very special place in my heart.

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  1. I love how you pair your quotes with flowers on your Instagram. How did you come up with that concept?

I started my Instagram page over two years ago but before I started it I wanted to make sure I post something unique. After talking to some creative friends for inspiration the idea for pressed flowers came up. This was perfect because flowers symbolise growth and that is exactly what I was doing at the time. The big changes in my life were opening up a new world to me, I was out of my comfort zone and I was growing. I still am. At the time I didn’t see many Instagrammers using flowers and I thought it was unique unlike now, where it has become very popular.

  1. Do you ever get writer’s block and if so, how do you overcome it?

This is something that definitely I experience and so do many other writers. What helps me get through this is the use of “writing prompts”. I will jot down whatever comes to mind pertaining to an idea, or a picture or even a memory. Sometimes I will just step away from the writing desk and take a walk or listen to music. For me, the best ideas come to when I’m not writing.

  1. Where do you find you are the most at peace?

There is a profound sense of tranquility when I immerse myself in nature. Perhaps growing up in a busy city like London has something to do with it, but when I take in a breath of crisp mountain air, a sense of calm comes over me like no other. I’m really grateful to be living in Alberta, where we are so close to the mountains. The natural beauty in the part of the world is enthralling. In light of this, I try to spend as much time in nature as I can. Whether it’s hanging out in the park with my dog Coco or going for hikes in the mountains.

  1. Are there any mantras that are speaking to you right now that you say to yourself?

I feel that even though it has been two years now since my move to another country, I am still transitioning. Change isn’t easy and sometimes it is a longer process than you imagined. I am still finding my purpose or calling. I am still trying to settle into what the universe is presenting me with. I do believe that things tend to fall into place and I am just where I need to be as difficult it may be to accept sometimes.

I am going through some personal changes in my life. I don’t have particular mantras but I have instilled practices into my life to help me with this phase. I try to practice a lot of self-love and self- belief and confidence in myself that everything will turn out okay. With the help of my husband, I spend time meditating and visualizing where I want to be, I remember my successes and how far I have come and I write down three things I am grateful for before bed.

  1. How do you unwind and relax at the end of the day?

I realize this might be a bit of a cliché, but I’m also somewhat of a homebody who loves to curl up on the couch with a blanket and watch something on Netflix. I mean, who doesn’t?

I also love to cook, sing and dance; sometimes all at once!

  1. What’s next for you?

I don’t want to say too much but there are some exciting projects on hold that I would like to explore next year when things settle a little in my personal life.

  1. How can people find you online?

The best place to find me would be on my Instagram page: @harpreet.m.dayal and Facebook page: www.facebook.com/harpreetmdayal

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This interview is part of Happsters Happy Questions, an ongoing series of interviews that take a peek inside the lives of inspiring women around the world.

Ladies: Are you looking for like-minded, positive friends? Apply to join a Happsters Squad in your city! New squads are opening up in 2018 ❤

Monica The Medium on Her Gift, Happiness & Her Morning Routine

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I’m thrilled to be able to share my interview with Monica Ten-Kate, aka Monica the Medium with you today! Monica is an amazing spirit medium, who starred on the reality show “Monica the Medium” on Freeform. I first came across Monica when some friends invited me to her in-person event, where she delivered messages from loved ones in spirit to people in the audience. I was in awe of her gift and am so impressed by her talent. Enjoy the interview!

1. How do you describe what you do?

I talk to dead people. That’s the plain and simple answer. Or in other words, I connect to those who have crossed over who are safe and at peace on the other side.

2. How did you learn that you had this gift?

I was intuitive and empathic growing up, but it wasn’t until high school that I really started to feel, hear and sense spirit around me. It started out with classmates, friends, and even teachers. At first I thought it was a coincidence, but once it started happening around strangers, I realized it couldn’t be a coincidence. The defining moment for me was when I was working at an old job and brought through the dad of a 60 year old senior level engineer who worked there too. His dad showed me his son (the man I was doing a reading for), at 18 years old, finding him deceased next to a motorcycle in a white shed in the backyard. I described the scene clearly to this man I was talking to and he turned completely white and said “how did you know that? I’ve never told anyone that. There’s no way you could have known that.” I was crying and he was crying and I brought through all the messages from his dad. It was really intense and I left there that day knowing that I would be doing this for the rest of my life.

3. Do you have an interesting story you can share from a reading you’ve done in the past?

There have been several times where the location of where I’ve given a reading has been quite interesting (and hilarious). One of the funniest is when I gave a reading in the bathroom at a bar while at Penn State.  I was in the bathroom stall and I started receiving messages for one of the girl’s waiting in line. I ended up giving her a reading through the stall!

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4. Have you learned anything from spirit coming through about happiness?

When we lose a loved one, it’s obviously very difficult, but ultimately I’ve learned that Spirit wants us to continue living our life. They love seeing us still find the joy in each day. They truly are the happiest when they see us happy.

5. What podcast or book are you loving lately?

It’s ironic because I’m coming out with my own podcast, but I don’t really listen to any podcasts! One book I recently read that I loved is “The Productivity Project.” It’s about how to increase your productivity. It’s been a light switch for me and changed the way I prioritize tasks.

6. What is your favorite mantra and why?

I just yesterday found this “quote of the day” and I loved it so much that I wrote it down on a post-it note to keep by my desk: “The secret of change is to focus all of your energy not on the old, but on building the new.”

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7. Do you have any morning rituals you consistently stick to?

Before I open my eyes in the morning, I take a deep breath and ask Spirit, God, and the angels what I need to know for my highest and best today and soak in the first feeling I get and take that as the message for the day. Also, most mornings I pick an angel card. I have a rule that I have to be happy with the one I get and not pick another one because there’s a reason why I picked it the first time. That card ends up being super accurate!

8. What does a typical day look like for you?

I wake up, feed my dogs, and then pack up my little backpack for the day. Most of the week I go to my gym and work out with my trainer. Then I shower and get Starbucks and go to my office. From there I work on whatever it is I need to do at work that day (plan events, coordinate all the venues, work on the podcast, write a chapter of my book, give readings to those who’ve won giveaways, etc.).

I try to get home by 6pm to spend time with my boyfriend Tyler, but many times I’ll be at the office until late.

9. Do you have anything exciting coming up?

As I mentioned, I just launched a podcast called Wine & Spirits Podcast with Monica the Medium. You can find it here.

You can also see where I’m hosting upcoming Messages from Above events in different cities! www.monicathemedium.com/events.

Social:

Instagram/Twitter: @MonicatheMedium

Facebook: www.facebook.com/MonicatheMedium

Snapchat: MonicatheMedium

Youtube: www.youtube.com/monicathemedium

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This interview is part of Happsters Happy Questions, an ongoing series of interviews that take a peek inside the lives of inspiring women around the world.

Ladies: Are you looking for like-minded, positive friends? Join a Happsters Squad in your city! New squads are opening up in 2018 ❤

INTRODUCING: Random DM’s of Kindness (#RDOK)

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Do you want to spread a little bit of holiday cheer this year with a twist? Send out a Random DM of Kindness (#RDOK)!

What is a Random DM of Kindness?

Random DM’s of Kindness are similar to Random Acts of Kindness. Have you ever heard of people randomly buying coffee for the person behind them in line? Random DMs of Kindness are like that, but in the Instagram realm.  These are usually sent near the holidays and are a fun way to spread kindness. Those who send Random DMs of Kindness will choose someone who follows them on Instagram at random and send them a gift card to an online store (my example below is Amazon) OR send a positive customized message/note to them as an epic kind surprise.

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Here’s how to send a Random DM of Kindness if you are sending a gift card:

  1. Scroll through your followers and choose one at random (It’s like wheel of fortune!)
  2. Go to amazon.com/giftcard and purchase an e-gift. Here’s the direct link.
  3. Enter an amount (people usually choose between $5-$10) and send the email to yourself.
  4. Once you receive the email from Amazon look at the claim code (found at the bottom of the email).
  5. Send an Instagram DM to the person you chose at random and say the following:

Happy Holidays! I’m sending you a Random DM of Kindness with a $[dollar amount] gift card to Amazon I bought for you. You can redeem it by logging into amazon.com and going to: https://www.amazon.com/gc/redeem. Then put in the claim code: “[claim code number]”. To learn more about Random DMs of Kindness, click the link in the @happsters bio! Hope you enjoy 😃

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Here’s how to send a Random DM of Kindness if you are sending a customized note:

  1. Scroll through your followers and choose one at random (It’s like wheel of fortune!)
  2. Write a custom message to them that you think will make them smile.
  3. Send an Instagram DM to the person you chose at random and say the following:

Happy Holidays! I just wanted to say hi and let you know how truly amazing I think you are. You are such an inspiring person and beautiful on the inside and out. Thank you for being you! #RandomDMofKindness 😃

That’s it! Once you send your DM of Kindness, do a little dance and congratulate yourself for being the awesome human being that you are. Oh and if you send one, please screenshot it and DM it to @happsters so I can feature you here and on my story!

If you want to post on your Instagram about it, feel free to use this photo below.

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Have YOU received a Random DM of Kindness? Email me with your experience at happsters@gmail.com!

Elissa Goodman on Holistic Nutrition, Healing & Wellness Trends

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I had the pleasure of meeting Elissa Goodman at a recent wellness event I attended and knew I had to interview her from the moment I met her. She is a holistic nutritionist and lifestyle cleanse expert and has an incredible story to share. Enjoy ♥

1. Were you interested in holistic nutrition before you became diagnosed with cancer?

My interest was piqued from visiting the Rancho La Puerta health ranch with my mom in my teen years (she was asthmatic and these yearly visits transformed her life). In the 70’s, my mom took sugar out of the house and she was a bit ahead of her time. Although, I hated it, these things certainly stuck with me. You don’t want to have to think about those things, but ultimately they come back to you when you need it and that’s really what it was for me. This foundation was laid in my youth and came back into my life when I was ready to receive it.

2. Once you received your diagnosis, what steps did you take to explore holistic alternatives that you thought might help you?

My diagnosis really changed the course of my life. Up until that point, I was living a fast-paced life, existing on takeout, sushi, and stress was the daily norm. It didn’t take a lot of time after I was diagnosed with cancer to get into juicing, plant-based diet, therapy, yoga, colonics, and acupuncture. These felt more natural and healing then chemo and radiation (I opted out of chemo and did a shorter version of radiation). I went full speed ahead with these practices and continue to do so to this day. I was lucky to have a fresh juice shop in my area which is still is there today. I started drinking straight carrot juice and in time, gradually expanded to adding greens and other nutrients to my juices. I loved how I felt after yoga and getting into therapy for the first time in my life was a hard process, but really changed my life.

3. What was your biggest takeaway after beating cancer?

You can heal anything. Cancer was a tap on my shoulder telling me that the way I was living wasn’t working. If you provide the right environment, the body CAN heal and wants to heal. I became a seeker of knowledge and still commit myself to getting to the root cause of any health issue so I help others to do so the same.

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4. What do you eat in a typical day now?

I start my day with a Bulletproof Matcha or Coffee (depending on the day and the amount of caffeine I want!), next is a green juice (with no fruit) and flax seeds. Lunch is typically a raw salad with leafy greens lots of veggies, seeds and a vegan protein. I like to eat dinner with my family and have something warm and seasonal with either another vegan protein (tempeh is a big hit in my house), lots of green veggies, and a gluten free whole grain or 5 oz. piece of wild salmon. I stick to the rule of adding fats, greens, lean proteins, and complex carbs to make a complete dinner.

5. What is your favorite wellness trend right now?

Mindfulness. We’re all moving a million miles an hour. I’m continuously reminded how much I need to slow down and I think we all need to be a little more mindful. It shouldn’t be a trend, it should be a timeless habit, but I’m happy to see a focus on it!

6. What podcast or book are you loving lately?

I like Mind Body Green’s Podcast, That’s So Retrograde, and Lewis Howes’ “The School of Greatness”. I go through phases of reading, looking forward to The Medical Medium’s next book release on Thyroid Disease and just finished Dr. Aviva Romm’s book on Thyroid Health and it was fascinating!

7. What is your favorite mantra right now and why?

Everything happens for a reason.

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8. Do you have any morning rituals you consistently stick to?

I wake up and drink 16 ounces of water religiously (I keep it by my bedside to make it really easy to do so). I like to read my friend, Ryan Weiss’s “Waking Up with Ryan” emails to set my intention for the day.

9. How can people work with you to cleanse their own bodies and lives?

I want information on to be accessible to everyone, if you can’t come in and see me in-person for a session or don’t live in Los Angeles and can’t participate in my cleanse program, I post endless healthy recipes on my website www.elissagoodman.com as well as all the latest wellness topics. I also use my Instagram as a platform to share all my favorite products, recipes, health tips, supplement recommendations. You can also find my show The Elissa Goodman Show on YouTube, this is where I interview “wellness warriors” about how they’ve healed (lots of great tips for everyone in these interviews!).

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You can follow along on Elissa’s journey on Instagram at @elissagoodman and visit her website at http://www.elissagoodman.com.

This interview is part of Happsters Happy Questions, an ongoing series of interviews that take a peek inside the lives of inspiring women around the world.